BY: HANNA BIER
When I first started my business, I noticed that my brain just wouldn’t stop thinking about work. I had no other interests besides marketing, coaching tools, copywriting and graphic design and I became more and more obsessed with the hustle.
Everything I did was for the purpose of “living my purpose”, which meant that I exercised because I needed to be healthy in order to be able to teach my clients about health. I made friends with people who I had no interest in getting to know, but I pretended to like them solely because they could be “amazing connections for future ventures”. And while my ambition and drive is something that has been serving me for such a long time, I noticed becoming a weird version of myself, a workaholic who over-identifies with what she does for a living.
Because YES, running a business is exciting and huge and scary and meaningful, but I also needed to honor that I am waaay more than my business. I am also a human who has a family and who needs to go on adventures and do things just for the sake of doing them.
It’s so easy to get all blown up about our work when what we do also happens to be our purpose, so I asked myself: How do I not become weird and lonely in the real world while growing my business?
Here’s what I came up with:
#1 Spend time outside.
Nature is my therapist. Whenever I don’t go outside and climb trees/surf/go for a long walk, I go nuts within a day or two. I always leave my phone and watch at home and I make sure to spend as much time recharging as I need. This makes ALL the difference.
#2 Spend time with regular people and wholeheartedly relate to their problems and hopes.
A lot of us do ridiculous amounts of self-development work and learn about finances and running a business all the time, so it’s easy for us to say “Oh you should just quit your job and become an online tarot specialist. This, and weekly colonics and you’ll be the happiest person ever.” Being a business owner might mean that you have more knowledge on a couple of topics than people who work regular jobs but that does not make you superior. Life is hard for everyone, so respect that and love with no selection.
#3 Try new things to keep a fresh mind.
Examples: Learn Ikebana (the Japanese art of arranging flowers), teach your grandma Pinterest so that she can upload pictures of her favorite recipes, learn to make homemade cosmetics to give to your friends and family and then DON’T turn it into a business, pickle EVERYTHING, visit Mongolia, learn Farsi (a truly beautiful language), write poetry, go on adventures (survival camp, anyone?), help someone move. Whatever you choose to do, do it just for the sake of doing it.
#4 Get a totally unrelated hobby.
What are you into? What is it that you are usually drawn to?
Make the opposite your hobby. I, for example, started working at a lingerie shop because a) I am not into underwear and b) I am not into bosses telling me what I should do.
Turns out, working in retail for a couple of hours per week is actually fun and I learned so much about not being terrible boss! Such a win for me!
#5 Get dressed on the regular
Since I work from home, there are days where I only change from one pair of yoga pants into another. This makes me feel like a slob pretty much all the time, so I challenged myself to change into pretty clothes every day no matter what.
#6 Tackle your daily tasks and then get a life >>
#7 Communicate your weirdness
It’s totally normal to feel alone and strange in the beginning of starting your business, so it’s important to let your mastermind/sisterhood/community of fellow business owners and real life friends and family know how you are feeling so that they can support you!
Whatever you are going through, we can hold you exactly the way you are, so reach out and talk about it!
#8 Do YOU at all times.
Don’t sell yourself out and do things you don’t believe in. It’s not worth it.
If being yourself means doing business completely different from what everybody else is doing, then that’s what you need to go for. People like you are called trailblazers and I celebrate that you realized that just because it hasn’t been done before, doesn’t mean it can’t be a success.
So remember, you can make your own rules, you don’t have to play the game like everybody else. Get creative and connect to folks outside your industry.
Are you going nuts at this time?
What are you doing about it?
Let me know in the comments!
Hi, I am Hanna, I am a free spirit and transformational life coach at www.freespirited.co .
I coach go-getters with ridiculous dreams and monumental goals achieve all that and even more. I am here to bring out the very best in you and to help you slaughter your very worst.
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